Keeping It Together with Sonali Gupta: Insights from a Psychologist and Psychotherapist

Jam With Sam - Sonali Gupta

In the 86th episode of Jam with Sam, host Sampath Iyengar sat down with the brilliant psychologist and psychotherapist, Sonali Gupta. Known for her expertise in mental health, relationships, and emotional resilience, Sonali shared her personal and professional journey. From her childhood experiences in Mumbai to her impactful career in psychotherapy, this conversation offered a wealth of insights into mental wellness and modern challenges.

A Childhood Shaped by Empathy and Resilience

Growing up in Mumbai, Sonali Gupta’s path to psychology began early. Inspired by her mother, who would clip articles about therapists, Sonali developed a deep understanding of human behavior. Interestingly, she revealed how a stutter in her early years made her a patient listener—a skill she now credits as foundational to her career. Her childhood therapy sessions fueled her desire to help others navigate life’s challenges.

Professional Milestones: From TISS to Independent Practice

Sonali’s career began at the Tata Institute of Social Sciences (TISS), where she spent a decade counselling students from diverse backgrounds. This role not only honed her skills but also broadened her cultural perspective. Today, she operates independently in Khar and South Bombay, specializing in relationship counselling, grief work, and aiding individuals in creative fields. Her work spans topics like dating, sexuality, and anxiety management, showcasing her adaptability in addressing modern emotional concerns.

The Evolving Role of Therapy in Urban India

Sonali highlighted the shifting perception of therapy, particularly in urban areas. When she began her practice, male clients were rare; today, they constitute a significant portion of her clientele. She also noted an increased number of people seeking therapy for non-clinical reasons, such as understanding dating patterns or improving compassion. Premarital counselling and discussions about open relationships have become increasingly common, reflecting changing societal norms.

Navigating Burnout and Finding Balance

In today’s fast-paced world, Sonali emphasized the importance of monotasking as a tool for managing burnout. Citing research on attention spans, she explained how frequent distractions disrupt productivity. Her advice: embrace mindfulness, set boundaries, and seek jobs that are life-friendly. These steps, she argued, are essential to reclaiming energy and focus in a digitally driven age.

On Suicide, Loneliness, and Systemic Change

Discussing a sensitive topic, Sonali stressed that suicides often reflect systemic failures rather than personal shortcomings. Family members may be unaware of their loved ones’ struggles due to stigma and a lack of open dialogue. She advocated for increased mental health literacy and the normalization of seeking professional help.

Quick Takes with Sonali

  • Preferred communication? E-mail over WhatsApp (to avoid “blue tick anxiety”).
  • Favorite social media platform? Instagram, for its supportive and non-trolling environment.
  • Marriage perspective? Marriage should not feel like an obligatory “Aadhaar card.”

About Sonali Gupta:

Sonali Gupta is a Mumbai-based psychologist and psychotherapist specializing in relationships, grief work, and creative industry burnout. A former counsellor at TISS and a renowned columnist, she is also the author of an upcoming book on anxiety, blending practical strategies with cultural insights.